When is the ‘right’ time to open your heart to love again?


I was in a long relationship and I fought to keep it alive but nothing I did was working.  I made the decision to end it.  I had respect for him and for myself and I was not going to stay in something that was not right.  I had many people comment about how they thought he was not right for me and then provide there comments as to when was the ‘right’ time to start opening my heart up again.  Let me be clear there is no ‘right’ time.  In my experience you should be happy with who you are as a independent person so some time on your own is good.  But you never know who you will meet and when you meet them.

I have happily met someone and I am over the moon.  It is new and early but I am enjoying it and will continue to cherish and nurture it!

A few friends have recently started new relationships as well and I just want to share with them and all of you. They only person you should listen too about knowing when your ready is YOU!! If it is right it will all work and if it doesn’t then that is OK too.

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Moo-over Milk



Over the past 4 months I have really notices how I have felt and reacted to certain foods.  A great friend of mine T. asked me to participate with her in a 10 day detox.  It was 100% vegan and 60% raw.  I made it to day 6 and then stopped mainly because the last 4 days were just juices.

One main thing this detox had was NO DAIRY (as it was vegan).  I am not a vegan in my day to day.  I enjoy meat, eggs, butter and cheese! Cheese is one of my vices but I know every time I eat cheese or consume a lot of milk products I am in agony.

I do not drink milk now so that is not hard to cut out.  I hardly eat cheese as it is.  But when I do I eat CHEESE! Plus I do enjoy greek yogurt.  I have decided after the third stomach agony in the past three weeks that dairy has to go… Now I will say I did buy two dairy products in my last grocery shop – Laughing Cow Cheese and Liberte Greek Yogurt.  I will continue to finish these off as they do not bother me.  However – I will not buy any additional dairy products going forward.

Great resources I am using to guide me through this dairyfree-transition:

Do you find the milk bugs you? Are you going to switch?

Chipping off what’s not needed

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Since June of this year I have been working on shedding what I do not need – which is my extra weight (among other things).  Above is a snapshot of just my face and how it has changed since April.

April 2014

  • Weight: about 260lbs
  • Unhappy and eating my feelings

August 2014

  • Weight: 225lbs
  • Started practicing Hot Yoga regularly
  • Happiness was about 75% and rising.  I had ended a long term relationship, revamped my friend choices, updated my schedule, made myself a priority.

December 2014

  • Weight: 212-215lbs
    • I have hit a bit of a plateau with my weight loss… I had a goal of being under 200 by Dec 15th but I am not confident I am going to do that.  I have revised this goal for Jan 2, 2015.
  • Added cross fit to my exercise regime.  It is hard but I am doing it!!
  • Happiness 85+% most days.  Life is still up in the air a bit but overall life is actually moving along very well.
    • I do have to be reminded from time to time that even if you have to take a step (or a few) backwards as long as you never lose sight of where you are planning to go you will always get there.

Overall I have lost over 50lbs since June 2014 when I started my health change! I am very proud of my accomplishments so far.

Back to Blogging


I used to blog often and somewhere along the way I have lost my voice to share me and mine with the world.  I have recently thought more on this and I have much to share with others and I need to open up.

Funny I say open up as every January 1st I set an intention for the year this years word was OPEN.  To be open to life.   This year my eyes have been thoroughly opened to how people can be and react to life.  I am still coping with the aftermath of several large bumps in the road.   I have been more open with my friend and family about my feelings – as I tend to bottle things up and not share.  I have been open to faith.   I am looking forward to this coming season and I hope that all that I have been through in the last one can set me forward for this one and those to come.

I will not use this place as a live journal nor will I share the most intimate aspects of my life.  But I will share what is the daily ongoing, what am I crafting, cool places I have gone.  I will also share my journey to shed my baggage weight that I have packed on over the past few years.

At the end of the day this is my place to share what I want!  I look forward to those who choose to come with me on this blogging journey!

Book Alert: The Transmigration of Cora Riley


Forgotten Relics #1

Average family. Average job. Average existential crisis.

After thirty boring years, nothing about Cora Riley’s life has measured up to her childhood dreams of being truly extraordinary. It’s too bad that the night she decides to seek out her specialness she crashes on a rural highway.

Cora wakes in the clutches of the Mistress of the underworld who sets her a seemingly impossible quest. If she wants a second chance at life, Cora must find her way through the dozen heavens and return to the castle in three days.

With the help of an unusual guardian angel named Jack and a little boy named Xavier, Cora navigates the afterlife doorfield and quickly learns that gods and monsters are very real indeed. Terrifying and tempting obstacles litter her path; only the power of belief – in the Otherworld, in her companions, and in herself – will return her to the land of the living.

The Transmigration of Cora Riley is the first novel in the Forgotten Relics urban fantasy series. It brings together the primary heroes, Cora and Jack, and lays out the system of gods, monsters, humans, and belief that shapes the world. Themes of trust, doubt, and redemption are interwoven with mythology both new and old to create a story that reminds the reader there’s always more to what we think we know.


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Ellie Di Julio
Ellie Di Julio is a nomadic writer currently living in Hamilton, Ontario with her Robert Downey, Jr. lookalike husband and their three cats. Between nerd activities like playing Dungeons & Dragons or watching Top Gear, she enthusiastically destroys the kitchen and tries to figure out what it’s all about, when you really get down to it. She also writes urban fantasy novels riddled with pop culture references and sexy secret agents.
Her first novel, Inkchanger, could easily be considered Forgotten Relics #0, and as such, rewards readers of the rest of the series, sort of like watching Thor before The Avengers. Her second novel, Time & Again with Kyeli Smith, has nothing to do with super powers or secret agents but is very cool nonetheless.
I have had the pleasure of knowing Ellie Di for several years now and she is a TALENTED and AMAZING women who has such a creative mind.  I highly recommend you get a copy of this book NOW!! Do not wait!! You will not want to wait!

2013 Round Up



I have not used this space all that much over the last year yet it was full of ups and downs.

  • Started my full time career in a field I love.
  • Ran a 5k and shaved 10 minutes off my time.
  • Helped raise $10,000 for children at McMaster Childrens Hospital
  • Produced a play in the Hamilton Fringe Festival
  • Started working at co-working office space which has expanded my career and I have met some wonderful people.
  • Read several inspiring business books.
  • Tore my ACL, small fracture and horrid bone bruise
  • Had a great Cider inspired get together
  • Attended the Hillsong Concert
  • Had an amazing birthday
  • Survived the Ice Storm of 2013
  • Had an amazing Christmas with my Family
  • Celebrated 2013 and rang in 2014 (to be done this evening)

I am looking forward to 2014 and greatly hope your 2013 went extremely well.


The Adventures

This is completely inspired by Tara Swiger – Thank you Tara!   I share the view, the gratitude and the finds on Fridays – you’re invited to join in.


Me - Hair

The new hairstyle courtesy of Hair By Di

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Hillsong United came to Copps in Hamilton

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#SocialMedia seminar I attended. Pretty interesting tips


  • I am greatfull for my health and the fact that my knee is healing well
  • Learning new things this week at the Social Media seminar
  • Working with an awesome collaborative group {RevUpGroup}
  • Understanding the importance of “me time”


  • I have discovered I love PC Loaded Butter Pecan tart ice cream! SO GOOD!